Who Will You Invite To Your Wedding?
Wedding invitations decisions regarding family, friends, children and plus one. Deciding who makes the cut.
First Things First
Before jotting down names on paper, you and your fiancé need to come up with a number: an estimate of how many guests to invite. Create four lists and label them “A” through “D.”
- “A” list should include those people, beyond close family members, whom you can’t imagine getting married without, such as your college roommate and the friends you hang out with every weekend.
- “B” list is for aunts, uncles, cousins and high school friends you’ve stayed in touch with.
- “C” list includes coworkers, your parents’ friends and neighbors you’ve known forever.
- “D” list can tally up distant cousins, friends you’ve lost contact with and your parents’ bridge partners.
Start eliminating with your “D” list and work your way backward.
Sometimes Mom and Dad have a guest list agenda of their own. If you are dreaming of having an intimate wedding a ballooning guest list is an issue. Here is one guideline for clarity – to not invite anyone that your fiancé and you haven’t seen in the last six months.
Make things clear to both your families early on. Traditionally, each family invites half the guests. You may choose to divide your list in thirds: one-third for the bride’s family; one-third for the groom’s; and one-third for the couple. This is a neat formula, but real life may not be so simple. Once you do, give each set of parents a pre-determined number of invites, and stick to it!
Children at the wedding? Consider management, meal, and entertainment for the children if you are including them. If you do invite children to keep a sense of humor about having the little ones there: If Isabel can’t keep her hands off the cake, don’t throw a fit. Instead, laugh and tell the photographer to catch it on film.
A plus-one is a must for anyone who is married, engaged, or in a long-term relationship. No exceptions there! A plus-one is also thoughtful for anyone who is single, but won’t have any other friends attending. But if someone is single and will be amongst friends or family, giving them a plus-one is not necessary.
When planning a small wedding the guest list can become a real dilemma. How do you have your small intimate wedding without offending family and friends that don’t make the list? This can quickly derail the joys of planning your intimate wedding. As the invitation list is compiled; concern, frustration, and confusion begin to mount. The bottom line is the fear and worries overhearing from someone who isn’t on your guest list expressing confusion, concern, or even anger. WHY WASN’T I INVITED!?
Dealing with your wedding’s guest list and deciding who’s in and who’s out can be a hard-line to draw. It becomes clear there’s no way to make everyone happy. Here are some key phrases you can use if an uninvited guest asks you if they’re invited.
If someone asks you if they’re invited, there are ways you can tell them that you love them, you SO appreciate their interest, but no, they’re not invited. Don’t get into the specifics of how many people you’re inviting or how you’re choosing guests. Keep it vague and loving.
Ideas To Consider
“Of course we want to invite everyone… but we’re really trying to kick off our marriage by being financially responsible for our wedding. We made the choice to keep our wedding pretty intimate, which means there are a lot of friends and family who won’t be there on our wedding day. I hope you can respect our wishes to keep our sacred event small.”
Ultimately no matter how loving or articulate you are, people are entitled to their feelings of disappointment. Try to remember that their disappointment comes from a place of LOVE: they want to be with you on your wedding day! You’re not responsible for their disappointment, nor can you control it — all you can do is try your best to be respectful kind, lovely and make sure they know that you understand how much they care.
Focus on who is coming and the lovely wedding day to come and enjoy! Remember this wedding is all about your marriage and how the two of you begin to make decisions together. Move from the love between the two of you, extend that love to everyone in appreciation for their interest and love.
If it’s possible to have a larger gathering later, let people know they are invited to come to share in your joy. Perhaps play a video of your wedding ceremony so that everyone can feel included.
Deciding who will and won’t be there to witness your marriage can be very stressful, once you’ve finalized your list then the fun begins. Cake tasting anyone?
California Marriage License Information
Do I need a marriage license to have a wedding ceremony?
No. You do not need a marriage license to have a wedding ceremony. A wedding ceremony without a marriage license is not a legal marriage.
For a wedding ceremony to become a legal marriage – a marriage license needs to be applied for prior to the wedding ceremony taking place. Both the bride and groom need to go together in person to the country clerk – to show I.D. and sign in person.
You can apply for a public marriage license anywhere in California and get married anywhere in California.
If you apply for a confidential marriage license you need to have your wedding ceremony take place in the same county as the you received the marriage license. A confidential marriage license does not require a witness to sign.
When the marriage license is brought to the wedding ceremony and signed by the officiant the license can be filed for legal reasons. A marriage license can not be signed after the wedding ceremony itself.
When a marriage license is forgotten and not applied for before the wedding ceremony. The couple can later have a civil ceremony and file a marriage license.
When the marriage license is filed, the legal nature of marriage is bestowed.
So you don’t need a marriage license to have a wedding ceremony. You do need to have an officiant sign a marriage license to file with the clerk.
If you are having a wedding ceremony for the two of you without any witnesses My SF Wedding will provide a witness for your public marriage license.
Real San Francisco Beach Wedding Of Ryan And Courtney
San Francisco Destination Wedding Photography
Ryan & Courtney arrived from Granite Bay, California for their romantic beach wedding.
Ryan proposed to Courtney in the Marin Headlands so they returned to take their wedding vows in their treasured memory spot. They brought their parents with them to join in the celebration of their wedding day.
They stayed at one of my favorite accommodations in Marin- The Inn Above Tides, right on the water overlooking the bay and the San Francisco Skyline. There is no place else like it on the bay.
On their wedding day, I arrived with the flowers for the Bride and Groom, a lovely contemporary wedding ceremony was performed and then the photo shoot. It was a beautiful day on the beach and 10 am provided the best time on the beach with fewer people and very little wind.
It was a lovely wedding filled with sweet moments.
With this ring…
Fourth Of July Bay Area Fireworks
Independence Day! Here come the fireworks, flags and cookouts.
July 4th Fireworks Around The Bay…
- San Francisco: Waterfront festival at Pier 39 with live music from noon until the Fireworks at 9:30 p.m.
- Sausalito: Parade starts at 10 a.m. through downtown Sausalito followed by a festival in Dunphy Park. Fireworks display at 9:20 p.m. over Richardson Bay.
- Tiburon: Fireworks cruise at 8:30 p.m. aboard the Angel Island Tiburon Ferry.
- Berkeley: Celebration at Berkeley Marina from noon to 10 p.m. with live entertainment, food, arts & crafts, kids playground and pony rides. Fireworks at 9:30 p.m. off the end of the Berkeley Pier.
Inland – Away From The Fog…
- San Rafael: Wednesday, July 3 through Sunday, July 7. Fireworks at 9:30 p.m. each night at the Marin County Fair.
- St. Helena: The Louis M. Martini winery puts on a soiree with music and Fireworks at 9:30 p.m.
July 4th Cookout Food
Some menu ideas for your cookout:
Appetizers: Pasta salad, fruit salad, coleslaw, chips, and grilled vegetable kebabs
Main Dishes: Burgers, veggie burgers, assortment of kebabs (swordfish, lamb, and chicken)
Desserts: Apple pie, rhubarb pie and patriotic popsicles
All-American Drinks: Some perfect all-American beverages to consider are iced tea, lemonade, July 4th red rum punch, and red/white sangria
Wave Your Flag
For more than 200 years, the American flag has been the symbol of our nation’s strength and unity. It’s been a source of pride and inspiration for millions of citizens. A prominent icon in our shared history.
However you celebrate your independence, let it shine!
Photography by Images by Ema
Watch Seasonal San Francisco Fog Pattern Over The Bay
The entire coastline of California experiences Fog as a typical weather pattern. The area is being covered in low-lying stratus clouds, San Francisco brings the clouds down to earth.
These visually beautiful fog formations are especially favored in the summer. Tule fog, can occur during the winter and then there are occasions when both types can occur simultaneously in the Bay Area. It’s just one of the elements that add to the allure of the city.
The fog adds to the romance of the city. Often the fog and low clouds blow in on the marine layer. Even when the clouds are not present, the coolness of the marine layer exacerbated by the strong winds can chill the City even in mid-summer creating San Francisco’s “natural air conditioning”.
Under normal summertime conditions, a daily pattern of fog and low clouds occurs.
Morning sun heats the ground which in turn heats the marine layer over the land areas.
Usually by noon, the marine layer clears back toward the coast.
By mid-afternoon, inland areas have heated sufficiently to decrease the air pressure and increase the onshore flow.
By late afternoon, the wind increases and begins to cool the onshore marine layer, allowing the fog and low clouds offshore to progress inland without evaporating. Cloudiness streams in over the Bay and through the various gaps. How far the clouds can penetrate inland depends on the depth of the marine layer and the strength of the cooling winds.
As night falls and inland areas cool down, the winds usually decrease, but the fog and clouds remain wherever they have blown in until the following morning when the cycle repeats.
Experience a Time Lapse of Magical SF Adrift
Best Fog Viewing
When the tide of fog is in, a walk across the Golden Gate Bridge is for the hearty and adventurous. Along Crissy Field, the Golden Gate Promenade, Marina Green and Fisherman’s Wharf, the wetness and wind may be a bit less chilling, best to bundle up.
For a peak experience, rise above the mist atop one of San Francisco’s Hills and look down upon the shroud of fog as it penetrates the entrance of the bay. First as wispy tendrils, then as a blanket of fleece, fog sometimes covers even the tips of the Golden Gate Bridge towers and stretches itself out into the Bay.
In the same glance take in the city skyline with the unmistakable silhouettes of Coit Tower and the Transamerica Pyramid reaching upward. Breathtaking!
SF Gate’s animated 24 hour fog forecast for The San Francisco Bay Area.
Show Your Love On Father’s Day
We love our Dad’s!
Father of the Bride & Father of the Groom…it’s just one way we mark our special love for Dad.
The History of Father’s Day in the United States
Sonora Smart Dodd came up with the idea of honoring and celebrating her father while listening to a Mother’s Day sermon at church in 1909. Sonora’s dad was quite a man. William Smart, a veteran of the Civil War, was left a widower when his wife died while giving birth to their sixth child. He went on to raise the six children by himself on their small farm in Washington.
To show her appreciation for all the hard work and love William gave to her and her siblings, Sonora thought there should be a day to pay homage to him and other dads like him. She initially suggested June 5th, the anniversary of her father’s death to be the designated day to celebrate Father’s Day, but the celebration in Spokane, Washington was deferred to the third Sunday in June.
In Fairmont, West Virginia on July 5, 1908. Grace Golden Clayton suggested to the minister of the local Methodist church that they hold services to celebrate fathers after a deadly mine explosion killed 361 men. While Father’s Day was celebrated locally in several communities across the country, unofficial support to make the celebration a national holiday began almost immediately. William Jennings Bryant was one of its staunchest proponents. In 1924, President Calvin “Silent Cal” Coolidge recommended that Father’s Day become a national holiday. No official action was taken.
In 1966, Lyndon B. Johnson, through an executive order, designated the third Sunday in June as the official day to celebrate Father’s Day. In 1972, during the Nixon administration Father’s Day was officially recognized as a national holiday.
Father’s Day is celebrated across the world.
- March 14– Iran
- March 19– Bolivia, Honduras, Italy, Liechtenstein, Portugal, Spain
- May 8– South Korea
- First Sunday in June– Lithuania
- Second Sunday in June – Austria, Ecuador, Belgium
- Third Sunday in June– Antigua, Bahamas, Bangladesh, Bulgaria, Canada, Chile, Columbia, Costa Rica, Cuba, Cyprus, Czech Republic, France, Greece, Guyana, Hong Kong, India, Ireland, Jamaica, Japan, Malaysia, Malta, Mauritius, Mexico, Netherlands, Pakistan, Panama, Paraguay, Peru, Philippines, Puerto Rico, Saint Vincent, Singapore, Slovakia, South Africa, Sri Lanka, Switzerland, Trinidad, Turkey, United Kingdom, Venezuela, Zimbabwe
- June 17– El Salvador, Guatemala
- June 23– Nicaragua, Poland, Uganda
- Second Sunday in July– Uruguay
- Last Sunday in July– Dominican Republic
- Second Sunday in August– Brazil
- August 8– Taiwan, China
- August 24– Argentina
- First Sunday in September Australia, New Zealand
- New Moon of September– Nepal
- First Sunday in October– Luxembourg
- Second Sunday in November Estonia, Finland, Norway, Sweden
- December 5– Thailand
Memories Of My Dad On Father’s Day
Day’s With Papa Bear
My Father was the first love of my life. My knight in shining armor. My rock, my buddy and my world. Six foot tall, dark eyes and hair, with an easy manner and deep voice. He had a charm about him that most people responded to. He loved to enjoy life and he took us along on his adventures.
I learned to have a deep appreciation for the water being raised on the Great Lakes. But this love of the water was a gift from my father. He would bring home a boat and park it in front of the house. The neighbors would come over walk around the boat and declare that he would never get it to float. Of course he turned it into a luxury ride for us all to enjoy. He built twenty-three boats. He built our homes on main street USA. Right on the water. He built over 33 homes.
Later in life he would throw himself out of bed drawing up plans for what ever his mind had designed. He was indeed a builder. A do it yourself-er! We learned how to do things ourself. If we wanted it then it was worth building.
Dad always provided the most reassuring hugs. The best laughs and the most fun of all. He took me to dinner when I made the honor roll. He waltzed me around the floor on his toes. He sat and played tea with me. We were close as close can be. We raced motorcycles and snow machines together. We even won trophies a couple of times. My Father taught me a love of life. He is forever in my heart holding me and reassuring me that all is well.
In the photo I’m standing next to my Dad with my Mom. In front of the house that Dad built dressed in the cloths Mom had sewn. A small town USA life that was rich in every way.
Father of the Bride’s Speech Guide
Sample Speech For The Father Of The Bride
I welcome all the relatives and friends of both families and thank you all for coming, especially those of you who have traveled great distances to be here today. It’s really great to see you all. Your presence today shows your friendship and love and brings greater joy to this wonderful day.
I am really fortunate that my daughter has met her Mr. Right. Of course, marriage isn’t just about finding the perfect partner, but also about being one. My daughter has made such a success of her life and career so far, that I’m sure her marriage will be just as successful.
My heart is full to see my daughter so happy, and so in love – and looking so beautiful today. Today, I look at my daughter and I see an independent, attractive, elegant, stunning young woman. She obviously takes after her mother. Of course she inherits other traits from me; her cooking, her musical talent, her allergy to housework and her appreciation for the finer things in life.
Every Father hopes his daughter will find a reliable, sensible, and considerate partner and as much as you try not to interfere in their lives, you always hope your children will make the right choices in life and she has.
To help you both with your marriage, I thought I would give you some advice based on my 36 year experience of married life. Marriage will teach you many things… loyalty…self restraint…obedience…I am still in daily training on these matters. There is no challenge in a marriage that can’t be overcome by one or more of the following: I was wrong! You were right! Yes Dear. I love you!
Finally, Never go to bed in the middle of an argument – be a man stay up and fight, you’ve lost anyway so you might as well get it over with. I leave you with this thought…Marriage is the meeting of two minds, of two hearts and of two souls. It is clear that you both are a perfect example of this. May your marriage be blessed with happiness that grows and with love that lasts to live a peaceful life together.
I wish you enjoyment for today, the fulfillment of all your hopes and dreams for tomorrow and love and happiness always.
It is now my pleasure to propose a toast to the happy couple. Please raise your glasses to the bride and groom.
Wow, what an emotional wedding – even the cake in tiers!
San Francisco’s View Dining – Private
Wedding Celebration Dining With A View
The Cliff House – American. Ocean Beach & Sutro Baths – Ocean View
Top of the Mark – Several Options. Lounge & Restaurant, Sunday Brunch – 360 degree BEST CITY VIEW
Four Seasons – Downtown Financial District Vista’s, private dining for 20.
WaterBar – Seafood. The Embarcadero. Bridge Tower offers private dining for 55.
Waterfront – Seafood. Pier Area. The North Room offers private dining for up to 32.
Greens Restaurant – Vegetarian. Marina Green. Bayside view with private dining for 50-200.
Slanted Door – Vietnamese. Ferry Plaza. Private dining for 20.
Absinthe Brasserie & Bar – French & Northern Italian. Hayes Valley. Private dining for up to 45.
Silks – California Flare. Financial Area. The Gallery, for up to 20. The library, for up to 50.
San Francisco Palace – The French Parlor, up to 90.
Gary Danko – American. North Point.
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